The “No Yelling” Challenge: Day 1

My name is Crystal, and I’m a yeller.

There: I said it. Although to be honest, I don’t think it’s as serious as it might sound. There are lots of far more serious bad habits that I don’t have. I’m not a couch potato. I don’t drink. I don’t gamble. And I never swear in front of the kids.

But I do get loud. I do slam things around when I’m angry. And I don’t apologize enough for it.

Confession is good for the soul, right?

We had a quick family meeting this morning wherein I announced that I was going to try not yelling for one full week, and that it would be nice if everyone else could try to do the same. I also told the kids that if they see me starting to lose it, they should say “Orange rhino!” to remind me of my goal. (I know that sounds lame, but it was one of the suggestions on the Orange Rhino site, so I figured it was worth a shot.)

Day 1 has not been too tough so far, but it’s not hard to not yell at the kids when they’re at school most of the day. Justin has had a few “I’m not doing that!” moments of defiance, but I managed to stay calm rather than get snippy, so that was a bonus. I’m supposed to be noting the times that make me want to yell so I can identify my triggers, but it’s been pretty smooth sailing so far.

We’ll see what the weekend brings…

The Orange Rhino Challenge: Can I Learn Not to Yell at My Kids?

button4-tmI know I yell at my kids far more than I should. Our house is full of yellers, actually, which doesn’t make it any easier (I frequently catch myself yelling at the kids to stop yelling…yes, I’m that mom.)

Shockingly, yelling doesn’t seem to work. Which leads to more yelling. Which leads to slammed doors, hurtful words, lots of tears…and a crushing sense of guilt when I think about how I want my kids to remember their childhood. To top it off, I don’t remember my parents yelling at me, and I’m fairly certain that wasn’t because I never did anything wrong. Can’t I learn to be a better mom?

And then yesterday a friend of mine shared a link to the Orange Rhino Challenge. It totally inspired me, so now I’m publicly stating my first goal: starting tomorrow, I will go one full week without yelling at my kids. (The Rhino challenge mom is doing a full year, but I’m not in that league…yet. There’s always hope, right?)

I’ll track my progress (or lack thereof) in this blog as I struggle to become the patient, loving mom I know I can be.

I want to be a mom who has the energy and determination to forge ahead and parent with more composure and warmth and without the yelling!

Stay tuned…