You Are What You Do: A Mom’s Identity Crisis

My boys had an interesting conversation with a couple other kids on their walk to school the other day:

OTHER KID: So do you guys walk home from school too?
MY KID: Yeah, mostly.
OTHER KID: Do your parents work?
MY KID: Well, our dad works.
OTHER KID: What about your mom?
MY KID: (pause) Well, she runs Kiss and Ride [the morning drive-thru-drop-off service at the school].
OTHER KID: (clearly unimpressed) Oh. That’s cool.

I was slightly stunned that my kids didn’t think to mention that their mom is a professional writer. When I called them on it, Justin said he didn’t know how to describe what I do, since I work from home and I don’t work for one particular company. It didn’t fit his concept of a job, so he dismissed it.

I couldn’t really fault him for that, since I only work a few hours here and there, and generally only while they’re at school. And even if they saw me working, it would just look like I was messing around on the computer.

But it bugged me. Why? Because while I wish I didn’t identify myself through my work…I actually do. Way back when I quit my job to stay home with my kids, I found it really hard that I could no longer say “I’m an editor” or “I work for Company X.” I remember filling out a passport application and having to list my occupation as “mom.” It seemed so inadequate.

It wasn’t, of course. Being a stay-at-home mom to two young children is a hell of a lot of work. I knew I was performing an important service, but I often felt like the rest of the world didn’t see it that way. And as my kids got older and more self-sufficient, I didn’t really see it that way either. I needed to feel like I was contributing.

So now I get to be a mom, and I get paid to write. It’s very close to a perfect arrangement for me.

And the opinion of a 10-year-old shouldn’t bother me at all.

Right.

 

To the Stars: Exploring the Kennedy Space Center

I’ve never been inclined toward science, but space is cool, and the Kennedy Space Center is an awesome outing (certainly better than sitting in the airport for eight hours, which was our only other option.) We inspected the space shuttle Atlantis, now permanently docked at the center. We saw a Saturn V rocket. We witnessed a re-enactment of the Apollo 8 launch. We even rode a space shuttle simulator.

And that was just the cool stuff for the adults. There were all kinds of interactive experiences for the kids, too — landing the shuttle, crawling through a replica of the International Space Station, and sliding down a huge drop that simulates how steep and fast the shuttle lands. We had five hours at the center and didn’t even get to do everything, and it was only one-third the cost of Universal Studios. In short, it rocked.

Another vacation done…

Our (Half) Day at the Beach

So we spent the day at Castaway Cay. More specifically, we spent most of the day circling Castaway Cay. High winds and choppy seas stymied the captain’s first two attempts to dock at Disney’s private Bahamian island, so we had to pull away and circle around waiting for better conditions.

That was not what anybody wanted to hear after two straight days at sea, but the crew did an exceptional job of keeping passenger spirits up. A bunch of characters did meet-and-greets in the atrium, plus a crew member tapped me on the shoulder and offered the four of us a special photo op with Chewbacca (!) so that was pretty cool.

We finally docked on the third attempt, a full five hours late. The weather certainly was cloudy, cool and windy, but the kids still had fun. Justin splashed around a bit and then discovered the basketball court; Brayden and I had one go at the huge waterslide and then he busied himself building a sand fortress. I’d call it an OK afternoon.

The cruise ends early tomorrow morning (sob), then we’re planning to see Kennedy Space Center before catching a late flight home. It’s been a great trip, but we’re all ready to have some time away from each other. This family togetherness thing is getting old.

Back to the snow…

Dancing With the Disney Stars

It’s a good thing I never go anywhere without my camera when we’re on vacation. Brayden and I were just chilling near the ship’s atrium this afternoon — I was reading, he was playing on Chris’s phone — when a dance party suddenly began and a bunch of Disney characters arrived. Brayden put down the iPhone and immediately joined in.

And when I say “joined in,” I mean he busted so many moves that I thought he was going to injure himself. You know that scene in “Back to the Future” when Marty gets all out of control while playing guitar at the high school dance? That was Brayden. People were actually clearing space to watch him go. He had Goofy and Mickey and Pluto all trying (and failing) to keep up with him. It was something to see.

We (barely) managed to stay awake for the Star Wars deck party last night, but I was glad we did. The show featured characters like Darth Vader, Chewbacca, C3PO, and R2D2, none of whom were part of the random character greetings around the ship yesterday. The fireworks were pretty spectacular, too. The boys were beyond exhausted by the time it was all done, but I think they had fun.

This was another sea day, so we spent the morning riding the water coaster and swimming in the pool. You have to get to the water coaster early or the line gets crazy long, but getting up early is par for the course in our group, so that worked out well.

Tomorrow we get to spend the day on Castaway Cay, Disney’s private island in the Bahamas. Beach day here we come…

The Force is Strong On This Ship

I thought people went all out for pirate night, but this takes theming to a whole new level. The costumes are so elaborate for Star Wars Day at Sea that it’s actually difficult to tell the Disney cast members from regular superfan passengers. Apparently our sailing has 1,500 fewer children than usual because of all the adult Star Wars fanatics that snapped up a room when Disney announced this special event. It’s kind of surreal.

Official characters from the movies wandered the ship for most of the day. We bumped into a couple of cute Jawas who searched Brayden for droid parts; we also came upon a funny-looking guy with a big axe that Brayden insisted on getting a picture with. The one sour note was when we got a special ticket to what Disney called an “interactive character experience” that turned out to be a 10-second photo op with a Dark Side dude none of us had ever heard of. Huh.

Star Wars TV shows on the giant poolside screen, Star Wars music over the PA system, Jedi training sessions, Star Wars trivia games…it’s like being in a parallel universe. There was even a special Star Wars menu in the dining room featuring things like a Jedi Temple Salad and Han Solo’s Frozen Carbonite Sundae. Our server even poured Brayden’s ketchup in the shape of a Yoda face, which was a welcome departure from the usual Mickey ears.

Right now we’re off to see The Force Awakens in the theatre, then there’s a late-night Summon the Force party on the pool deck complete with fireworks that we’re going to try hard to stay awake for. May the Force be with us…

A Grand Day in the Caymans

Getting up close and personal with various sea creatures was the theme of our day in Grand Cayman. Chris and Brayden had an encounter with dolphins while Justin and I watched from lounge chairs on a sandy beach, then we all marvelled at the huge sea turtles at the Cayman Turtle Farm. It was sunny and hot and we all had a good time, except for when we rode the tender boat to shore and everyone else took in the sights while I closed my eyes and tried not to vomit. A good day overall.

Pirate night was a blast. Everyone got a bandana to wear; many people went much further than that with their costumes. The kids have not cared one bit about getting their picture taken with any of the Disney characters, but I couldn’t pass up the chance to meet Cap’n Jack Sparrow, so we stood in line for 20 minutes for that. (Not sure why I thought a Hulk pose would make me look like a pirate. Kind of blew that one.)

After dinner there was a pirate party on the pool deck featuring Mickey and friends that was actually really cool. Our dining room server explained that they had a 7:45 show because there were lots of kids who couldn’t stay awake for the Jack Sparrow version at 10:30. (That’s the great thing about this ship: there’s no shame in going to bed early. You can always blame the kids.)

Star Wars Day at Sea tomorrow. If it lives up to the hype, it’s going to rock.

Discovering Mexico

Having travelled extensively around the world, I have discovered two things about myself: I enjoy looking at really old rocks, and I don’t give a rat’s ass about art. Both of these things came into play on our tour of Cozumel today.

We started at the Mayan ruins of San Gervasio. To be honest, they were a bit of a letdown, at least in terms of the tour. Our guide had much to say about a suitcase-sized rock that was used for crushing cacao, but made no mention of the house-sized temple standing beside it. The only bit that caught Justin’s attention was when the guide explained how the Mayans used to write numbers and do math. She used small words and spoke slowly and I still don’t have the faintest clue what she was talking about. Justin caught on pretty quickly, though. I sense a new obsession coming.

Then it was off to the Discover Mexico cultural park. We sat through a short video of images of Mexico’s sights and traditions, then walked through a museum of cultural artifacts. I tuned it all out, but the kids were surprisingly interested in some of the sculptures.

After a lunch of quesadillas and fries (yum!), the kids all got to take turns whacking at a colorful pinata. It still hadn’t busted after everyone had had a turn, so they asked for a volunteer father to finish it off, and Chris jumped at the chance. When it finally broke, candy scattered everywhere. Justin grabbed a couple pieces; Brayden filled his hat.

And that wasn’t even the end of the sugar rush. Our final stop was at a chocolate factory, where the kids did not care to try the free samples but insisted on spending $10 on chocolate bars in the gift shop. Naturally.

It’s pirate night on the ship! More on that tomorrow.

Now to Grand Cayman…

A Floating Fantasy

Nobody does it like Disney, I tell ya. From the stage shows to the sports deck to the water coaster, there is serious fun to be had. Even the staterooms are awesome — the kids are totally stoked that they have a curtained off area with bunk beds where they can mess around with no parental oversight. Justin in particular has been crazy happy. (Out of the blue this morning he blurted out, “I can’t believe we got a nice room on a good ship!” Like he was expecting to be stuck in steerage on the Titanic or something.)

There was a fun-for-all-ages interactive fantasy football draft in one of the pubs right before the AFC championship game today, so Brayden was all over that, even though he was the only one there under the age of 15. Chris was busy doing a ship-wide scavenger hunt with Justin, so Brayden was stuck with me. I know next to nothing about football, but I kept track of who had been picked and how much money we’d spent.

Unsurprisingly, we were near the bottom after almost every round. At one point Brayden whispered that he didn’t care if we won; he just didn’t want to be dead last. But in the final round, all but one of the other teams got disqualified for spending more than their allotted budget…and we won! They gave us ball caps and high-fives, and everyone seemed pleased that the little guy actually won. That was easily the highlight of Brayden’s whole week.

I’m not normally a fan of sea days, but this one has been awesome. Cozumel tomorrow…

Frozen in Florida

I get that Florida isn’t exactly Hawaii. I get that it’s January and it’s an El Nino year and all that. But 3 C with a wind warning? It was warmer than that when we left Kelowna, for cripes sake. (When we got on the ship, one of the Disney crew members greeted us with an ironic, “Merry Christmas!” Holy God, it’s cold out there.)

Speaking of the ship: it’s beautiful. Things are always chaotic on embarkation day, but the boarding process has been the smoothest of any cruise line we’ve ever been on. They even announce your family and applaud as you come aboard, which made the kids feel like rock stars. The original plan was to hit the waterslides first thing, but given the weather I didn’t bother digging out our swim gear. So instead, we went straight for lunch.

As experienced cruisers, we knew enough not to hit the main buffet, where 90% of people congregate after coming on board. So we made our way to the one sit-down restaurant that was open. This meant we got table service AND a chance to sit inside out of the wind (the main buffet is on the freezing cold pool deck). Good stuff.

We actually had a pretty neat experience at dinner last night too. We went to NBC Grill and Brew, which not only had hundreds of TVs showing every sport known to man, but also offered special tables with plexiglass covers over different table games (shuffleboard, in our case). So we could eat and drink and play shuffleboard all at the same time. It was pretty much a dream dining experience for the boys.

After dinner, I had to spend an hour in the hotel laundry room drying out the clothes — and shoes! — that got drenched in yesterday’s rain so I could pack for today. Party on.

They swear it will be much warmer tomorrow. Time will tell…

 

Scenes From a Swamp

High winds, pouring rain, not a speck of sun, and a three-hour time change messing with people’s sleep schedules. I’m so glad we came to Florida. Good times.

We actually did have a good time at Universal Studios today. The crappy weather meant there were virtually no lines, so we covered a lot of ground in very little time, and didn’t have to feel guilty about bailing early. We were completely and utterly soaked by the time we made it back to the hotel. I’m sitting in the room wrapped up in a fleece jacket instead of laying on a beach towel by the pool, but c’est la vie.

Tomorrow we board our Disney cruise ship to sail the western Caribbean. The forecast is for grey skies and a high of 10 C, but I’m hoping the ship will be so amazing that I won’t care.

Stay tuned…